tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4560607747499642804.post3731748667759869250..comments2023-06-10T20:21:47.408+10:00Comments on Rollercoaster Parenting: One Step Forwards, Two Steps Back.Heike Fabighttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06856001856348587649noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4560607747499642804.post-73704021275024007052009-03-16T10:28:00.000+11:002009-03-16T10:28:00.000+11:00OOPs,did I? I am sorry, I always think of Beaver a...OOPs,did I? I am sorry, I always think of Beaver as his actual name since that is my grandson's name too, as I've mentioned.<BR/>I guess I need my two week March break, which just started.Sorry about that!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4560607747499642804.post-39102662030817486992009-03-13T12:21:00.000+11:002009-03-13T12:21:00.000+11:00hi heike, oh...memories....i am now 10 years dow...hi heike, oh...memories....i am now 10 years down the track with Justin - 11 in may. the good news is that there is an end in sight, they do grow out of issues although i am still waiting for Justin to let go of some...having 2 married children i can tell you that it all ends way too soon and it is ends up a faint memory. i got to the stage where i would only concentrate on the good things of the day, refusing to dwell on the bad - but you know all that already, for me it was just a matter of CHOOSING it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4560607747499642804.post-30930432365927840862009-03-12T13:57:00.000+11:002009-03-12T13:57:00.000+11:00Oh Friend,I had a good cry on the way to Emergency...Oh Friend,<BR/>I had a good cry on the way to Emergency with Ben this week (he's OK). Sometimes it is just too much to handle it all and keep back the tears. <BR/>I see a bit of this behavior in Ben already and he is just 6. I will be learning from you and Beaver.Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03782895993683857172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4560607747499642804.post-76937676376303722632009-03-11T16:21:00.000+11:002009-03-11T16:21:00.000+11:00Grammacello left a dounble post, in the second one...Grammacello left a dounble post, in the second one she uses Beavers's real name so i've decided to just post her first part (in essence the same as in the second) here only,<BR/><BR/>"My stepson has social anxiety disorder but was diagnosed as an adult<BR/>We have always suspected somesuch-he also, it turns out, is severely ADD-again, even though we had him tested as a youngster it was not properly picked up- now he is 28 and struggling a lot- to finish school and have any sort of normal life.<BR/><BR/>It is just a hunch but maybe Beaver's school placement is not working as well as it might be- BooBoo is in a place specifically catering to her needs (and is also a girl so possibly more resiliant)but Beaver's school has already dropped the ball by having no plan in place when they said they would, making things worse.<BR/>Maybe the school itself is not working out as well as it should be, at this point, even if it was earlier....<BR/>School is a BIG part of these(all) kids lives. Just thinking aloud- hope you don't mind."Heike Fabighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06856001856348587649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4560607747499642804.post-70517561421438484442009-03-07T22:42:00.000+11:002009-03-07T22:42:00.000+11:00I suffered from anxiety during my childhood. It wa...I suffered from anxiety during my childhood. It was awful. Worse still that no-one ever tackled it head on. Different times.<BR/><BR/>I think your idea to stay with him rather than leave with him is a great step. It hopefully will let him see that Fridays at school are safe. It'll then just be the challenge of how to leave him again BUT it's promising that the other four days are OK. That suggests he's definitely got it in himself to deal with this.<BR/><BR/>I'm glad you got to have a good cry. I hope you won't need to have another and that you'll have your Fridays back again soon xoxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4560607747499642804.post-85461061215942762182009-03-06T22:16:00.000+11:002009-03-06T22:16:00.000+11:00g'day Heike,So you are having some help come to be...g'day Heike,<BR/><BR/>So you are having some help come to be with you. Might take the pressure off you and give you a bit of space. I have started "following" Sanna's blog which will be interesting.<BR/><BR/>Hugs to you Heike<BR/><BR/>GleeGleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17671758996746410949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4560607747499642804.post-65908155578751586552009-03-06T16:57:00.000+11:002009-03-06T16:57:00.000+11:00Not sure how much of a help I can be but.. Ive had...Not sure how much of a help I can be but.. Ive had my share of anxiety and panic attacks so I kind of know what he's going through. 2 things that helped me were; safety and breathing. It might help with his attacks if he has some kind of safe item at school with him(toy, blanket, piece of clothing) and when he starts having an anxiety attack the teacher could take him sowhere quiet with his safety item and stay with him there, talking with him saying how its just a normal day and mum will come pick him up after school just like every other day, doing breathing exercises.Sandie Lanleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00894418859919038106noreply@blogger.com